Dealing with Divorce

My mom and biological dad never married for a couple of reasons. They were both very young and my dad was quickly on the path to alcoholism. My real dad was always a part of my life. Sometimes he lived with us and my mom supported him - even though they weren't together, and sometimes he lived somewhere across the state. He would call a couple of times a year, until he died in 2002.

Mom finally got married when I was about 14 or 15 to an older guy who owned an appliance repair business. He was a really nice guy, but quiet and different than both of us because of the age difference. I was a teenager who liked to spend time on the computer and he didn't understand that. Even though he didn't understand it, he was still a great step-father. I ended up moving out (finally) and in with my boyfriend. It was a good thing for me because my family relationships were struggling. I didn't relate to anybody, and I'm happier and a lot less stressed to be living out of the house.

After I moved out my mom and her husband's relationship steadily declined and they finally divorced in December. It's awkward and difficult. How am I supposed to talk to my step-dad about still wanting to maintain a relationship with him? It's hard for me to maintain one with anyone anyway, because of my limitations physically and transportation wise. He doesn't live movies or music or anything that I do. But, I can't lose another father. He has been so good to me and the last thing I want is for him to disappear and never speak to me again. I've decided to write him a letter. I've been thinking a lot about it the last week or so. It's affecting me more than I thought it would.